Need advise my 3 year old will not potty?

My 3 year old shows all the sighs that she is ready for the potty , I have been trying for 2 months now and it is making her miserable. She goes in her pants and get very tearfull when she has to go on the potty , we have tried treats , lots of praise and patients , I am worried she will not be trained bfore she goes to pre-school at this rate , any adviseNeed advise my 3 year old will not potty?
Are you trying to do this on a regular toilet or a child's potty chair? If you are doing it on a regular toilet she may be scared she will fall in. Take her to the store and let her pick out her own potty. And have a lot of patience, girls seem to take their own sweet time potty training. Good Luck!!Need advise my 3 year old will not potty?
before you do anything else go to your gp to rule out any medical reasons,if everything is ok then she can be potty trained, first of all dont make a big issue out of it, the best time to take her to the potty is after she has had drinks and not tired,, make up a star chart for different grades of treats dependant on her response,ie 1 star for sitting on the potty,2 stars if she tries, ect also let her choose some underwear,this usually makes them feel a bit more grown up,to avoid her being upset by accidents try to cut down on her drinks at inappropiate times ie bedtime and if she is still using a bottle for either milk or juice,stop.. she is too old. as for pre-school,remember they have come accross this problem many times and they should be able to help and give advice,lastly remember patience and consistancy are the key,(to avoid confusion and remain consistant dont be tempted to put nappies or pull ups on for trips out as this causes a great deal of confusion for the child,you just have to build in loo stops for any journeys, shopping ect)very few children with no medical problems go to school untrained,you will get there in the end.


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Angel - that is practically what I did and it worked my 3 yr old was dry day and night in just one day and since then she has only had a handfull of accidents!





After the initial day we did do a sticker chart for a week or so to help her remember to go!





Also you do need to make sure they and their dolly drink LOTS while you are doing this as then they need to go lots to get the hang of it.





Hope it goes well :)
My advice would be to leave it completely for a month now to take the pressure off both of you, and then try again. Don't necessarily wait til she needs to go, sit her on the potty whilst you read her a book, sit her on there whilst you go to the loo, all sorts of times. Eventually, you'll hit a time when she'll just go by accident one day, and then heap the praise on her! She'll get the idea eventually.
Persistence and patience.





Right now she isn't too familiar with the potty, all kids go through that stage.





Just remember that it is for her benefit (for school and to avoid social embarrassment )to be potty trained.





Just keep training her and she will come around.
Dont pressure her. Just try telling her how much nicer it is to go on the potty instead of nappy. Explain how her bottom wont be sore anymore and she wont need nappies.


She will get to a stage where she hates going in heer nappy as she will find it uncomfortable.
what about trying pullups instead of pants
try just taking her to the toilet every half hour my kids never went to the potty, they hated it, also let her come in to the toilet when you go if she sees you doing it it may encourage her to do it.
I was reading on this topic, last night.


My child is turning three, and she can use the potty, but only when she in naked. Once I put a diaper on or big girl panties she goes in them. And she will not tell me.





So anyway I was reading this thing called a potty party.


so how it goes it you buy her a dolly that does the pee pee thing, and you and your child train the dolly to go potty..


but while you are doing it you are playing games. in the middle of a game look at your kid and say hay I think dolly needs to go potty. then take her and potty train her..do it many times so that you child takes over.





after the afternoon start to focus on your daughter, you child has seen how it works. then go back to playing games and to the same thing all over again.





look on the net for something called potty party, or potty training in one day.





I am going to try this on Saturday. if I don't succeed by then!


I hope it works!


I think I am going to call it a big girl potty party..
my son refused to go anywhere near a potty so I got a family toilet seat so he could do what we did. Took him up every 30mins or so to see if he would go. On the first day we had 3 lots of wet clothes and he hated being wet. He started to tell me he wanted to go and then did nothing but I soon learnt to leave him sat there a few mins. On the second day we had 1 accident but by the end of the week we had no wet pants and a smiling big boy. He still had pull ups at night as doing a no. 2 took longer. He used to wait until I put on the pull ups and then go, crafty little devil so I chucked them and got bed mats he would only poo if I left the room though. In all it took 4 weeks to get him from nappy pants to going to the toilet and not wetting the bed
get her socialisng with other kids who do use the potty, she may feel more able to do this if she can relate to the kids that do.





Also try not to make it into a big deal, if you do, she will, just congratulate her when she does. Be patient as she will be able to pick up the tension if you are not.
When my daughter started to give the signs of wanting to go potty i put her in big girl undies and started to take her every 15-20 minutes to go sit for at a minute on the potty. It took about a month for her to get a hang of it but now she is doing very good. Start off by telling your daughter that she is a big girl and only babies wear diapers...try giving her a sticker or a m %26amp; m every time she goes potty like a big girl.....make a big deal out of her useing the potty...clap ...high five.....tell her how proud you are.....even when she just sits there always tell her how big she is being....The hardest part for me with my daughter is when we are out of the house or when she has to go #2...she waits to long and has a accendent...but we are working on it still .... Try not to rush your daughter and try to stay calm if it takes awhile to get her use to it.. GOOD LUCK!! Oh also try to get the video ';POTTY POWER'; and see if she likes it any...my daughter loved the video and it made her want to use the potty more...
Hi Honey. It can be a chore and a half getting these little people toilet trained but my advise is to take the pressure off not only your little one but also yourself. Some kids take to it no problem but others seem to make it as hard as possible! Have you considered leaving it for a month or so and then using a star chart can be very successful. Make the star chart fun and brightly coloured. Tell you little girl that every time she uses the potty or toilet she gets to put a star on her chart (stars can be on double Velcro so you can reuse the chart the next day). Tell her that if she gets a certain number of stars she gets a sticker so everyone can see what a big girl she is. At the end of the day she isn't going to be in nappies when she's ten because she won't want to be!!, so allow it to happen naturally.


GOODLUCK. From mum of four and 28wks pregnant.