Wednesday, April 28, 2010

My grandaughter is leaving her husband after only 6 months of marriage. What should I do to advise her.?

Advise her u can't your not walking in her shoes and u don't no what she's going thru. What u can do is support ask her does she need anything a shoulder to lean on a hug anything that u will b there for her thru out everything thats what grandmas r there forMy grandaughter is leaving her husband after only 6 months of marriage. What should I do to advise her.?
well i would find out why she is leaving. is there something that can be done to salvage the relationship. if she is not sure on what to do you could recommend counseling or a separation to think things over. if there is something really wrong and she has every right to leave i would be there for her and try to understand and give her the support she needs. good luckMy grandaughter is leaving her husband after only 6 months of marriage. What should I do to advise her.?
Be emotionally supportive to her, it's her life, i know you're not happy with it but you cannot do nothing about it.
Its a tough question. I guess the circumstances of this break up determine what you can advise her. If in your experience, it seems like small stuff that can be fixed with a little counseling, and that there is potential in this relationship, and they both seem to be willing to make it work, then she should not give up and quit so soon. If it were my granddaughter and there were any kind of abuse on his part, I would encourage her to leave/divorce him. But above all, let her vent and maybe she'll come to an answer by herself. Listening is something any one in turmoil finds most reassuring. Good Luck to both you and your granddaughter!
stay out of it, he could have beat her.....you don't know anything about what's been going on.





Stay out of it.
Talk to her about the situation and listen to her story.





Perhaps she doesn't realize that the first year of marriage is difficult as she and her husband have to adjust their expectation of marriage with the reality of marriage. Most people go through a huge range of emotions that first year of marriage and that they communicate and love each other to work through them. Working through these issues the first year builds a deep and strong foundation to weather through the tough times. She has to be willing to communicate and find compromise with her husband.





If I were you, I would tell her how you and grandpa struggled with each other when you were first married...and how there were days that you wanted to throttle him.
All you can do is listen. Anything you might say would be wrong. I'd just be supportive.(ears only)
nothing
I'm sure she has her reasons. I would stay out of it.
Find out why she is leaving him exactly feel her out to see if she is really in love and should tough it out (unless there has been abuse or cheating) theres nothing worst then looking back on life with the wuda shuda and could'ves
Well, why is she leaving?
Why is she leaving him?
Well, i will be honest with you ok, Tell her nobody is perfect, no marriage is perfect. But we all have to work at it to make it better. It's like a Basketball team you have 5 players on the court for your team and if one gives up and walk away your team will lose, like a marriage it takes two to make it work. One can not do it by their self. And only after 6 months is giving up kind of easily. Sounds like she did not want to try to make it work. The wife was 19 and I was 1 month short of being 22 when we got married. We had problems, we yelled at each other, But we loved each other enough to keep trying, and this coming April will make 18 years for us
Well, without more details it's hard to advise you on how to advise her. That set aside, here's my answer for now:





It's her decision to leave of course, and she could have good reasons. Better to leave than stay with someone she must not love anymore for whatever reason(s).





Just let her know that you are there for her no matter what. Listen and be a shoulder to cry on while fighting the urge to give advice on what to do, because that usually backfires when it's a family member and it's really not your place no matter how much you want to tell her what's best from what you've learned in life.





Also, if she needs legal advice, point her in the right direction. There are many women's centers such as YWCA that offer counseling, legal advice and other services she may benefit from. Google women's shelters in your area. Just because they're shelters doesn't mean she has to go there to live...that's usually just an umbrella name for an organization that helps women in need, regardless of income or situation.
Let her find her way and do not judge her. She needs your support.
Nothing, just stay well away from it.
Nothing! It's her life and only she knows whats best for her. Most likely, she'll do what she wants regardless what you advise her. All you can do is be there for her and be a good listener.
Just make sure she knows that you love her, unconditionally.
Listen and love her. The one thing my grandmother always gave me was absolute love and affirmation.
Just be there when she calls or stops in. Sorry its none of your beeswax.

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